Back to the Fast Track
As school begins parents tend to let out a sigh of relief. Life will again become more structured and students will become more responsible outside of the home. School eases our minds as to their whereabouts. Bedtimes become more on schedule. Nine months of school will prepare them for the next step.
But what about the students? As they enter adolescence, school has many more demands. They are now expected to be accountable with assignments and organization of materials. Schoolwork is harder. Peer pressure takes on many new expectations. They are entering areas of new and harder academics. Grades count for transcripts that will guide their futures. They need strategies for self-pacing and obtaining information on their own. Their behaviors need to be in check. Social interactions become a way to view themselves and put parameters around who they are and who they want to become.
Parent involvement is crucial. When we as parents participate in school events students have higher achievement levels and lower drop out rates. Academic success is bolstered. Students feel supported and encouraged to succeed.
How do parents encourage the transition from a less demanding summer routine to the structure of the school year? They can begin by recognizing the demands of a school day. These demands are equal to a work environment and usually as stressful. Parents can help students unwind with down time, recreation time, healthy eating, and family meals and interaction.
Parents can be involved with homework and help set a routine with time and assistance. They can encourage learning in the home. They can share their views on events. They can help students draw their own conclusions and be respectful of their opinions. They can discuss concerns and values with students. They can be available. One of the best places for discussion seems to be in the car as we are available, but sometimes not too "in their space."
Parents can encourage children and let them know that we see the many demands that are placed on them with the pressures of school. Compliment them on the many ways they handle school, jobs, sports, homework, and peer relationships.
Parents can help their children step away from the umbrella of our protection and make their own decisions that will lead to success. We need to encourage their independence and progress.
We can realize that with the help of teachers and our community, we are shaping lives. We can keep informed about what is happening at school. We can keep in contact with teachers and grades (before grading periods) so that missing assignments don't get overwhelming. We can help them to pick and choose activities to avoid over-scheduling. With our help and their initiative, the year can be rewarding and enjoyable for all.
Sarah Thoms, M.S., LPC, NCC
LifeMarks Counselor
Volunteers of America, Dakotas
(605) 332-6128
